John Welwood "Challenge of the Heart: Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Changing Times" Shambhala 1985 is a series of essays he collected while writing "Journey of the Heart"
"Passion and Transformation" by Bernd Jager [quote] To sexuality still clings the dread and awe, the guilt and exaltation that one time belonged to the realm of the sacred. A thoroughly rationalized , efficiently managed sexuality, without flashes of terror and benediction, becomes another consumer-good, another recompense for the day's work at the office or in the factory. Sexuality as a "wholesome practice," as a mere process of mutual gratification and ease of tensions, can no longer fulfill its ancient role of manifesting the depth and the other side of things and beings. Civil, cosmeticized sexuality, with blunted arrows, neutered, becomes the solid inhabitant of the middle, and the noon of life, cut off from dawn and dusk, from the beginning and the end, removed from the empire of passion, incapable of movement, blind to the beckoning and threatening horizons of the world. Such a sexuality, removed form pain and divisiveness, from suffering, from death and from the gods, ignorant of height and depth, becomes a harmless "feel-good," the itching of a scratch, a sucker in the hand of an idiot. Fertile sexuality, whatever its form, must live in the awareness of the beginning and the end, the source and the depth. Only from that perspective, only within that possession can it give birth to the other side of things and beings.[/quote]
"Coming to Meet: Advice From the I Ching" by Carol Anthony. If you are hungry, get something to eat or decide to fast. Do not ask your wife to fix you dinner or start looking at her like she is food.
Other good essays:
"Conscious Love" by A. R. Orage
"The Sacred Dimension" by Suzanne Lilar