I read that oral sex is a natural biological trigger, but what if is is given somewhat like a caring massage? Personally, I enjoy performing oral sex on my partner, not to pursue orgasm, but because I know she loves it and loves it best, when it is very slow and caring. I like it, because I love doing something for her, similar to when I like giving her massage. Not to turn her on or to make her orgasm. Would it be okay, then?
I think it goes the other way around too, she doesn't want me to orgasm either, nor to turn me on, but to give me a enjoyable feeling and a good feeling of doing something selflessly.
Oh, and now we are at it, I see kissing/fondling breasts is in the list of bonding behaviours in CPA. Isn't it the most typical target for 'needy' touching? Maybe it is just me, but even after several weeks of no orgasms, I still feel a strange drawing desire towards the chest area and I dare not pursue it.
Very best regards,