I came across this site after doing a search for "porn changes brain chemistry" and finding the great articles on Dopamine. I first heard the concept as an aside in a personal development video I was watching, and decided to investigate further.
I've been using porn for a long time (nearly 20 years).
At one stage I looked at it a lot, although more recently it's been a masturbation aid. I look at it for enough time to 'get the job done', and then go back to what I was doing.
My reasons for this experiment are:
1. I'm at a phase in my life where I'm wanting to 'change up' significantly, and I need more energy, creativity and focus for that.
2. My relationship is currently going through a lot of changes due to recent arrival of a baby. It's too easy to hide from problems by 'self-medicating'.
3. I'm desperately bored of porn. Even whilst using it, I'm usually wanting to get it over with as quickly as possible so I can back to something more interesting.
4. This boredom has led me to want to escalate - not to more degrading stuff (been through that when I was much younger and using drugs as well. ), but to seeing prostitutes. I've dabbled in that direction before, and the reality is never up to the thrill of the chase. Doing that is likely to be risky and extremely harmful to my relationship, so I think it's time to get off the dopamine rollacoaster.
+ other which I'll add as I think of them
The stuff Marnia wrote about porn being a drug really resonated with me. I used to use drugs a lot when I was younger, and they were great fun (although not something I'd advocate to other people). However, they got to the stage where the feeling they gave me was just hollow, so I stopped. I feel I've got to that place with porn now.
I'll write more later, but here are the rules I'm setting:
-No porn for 30 days. I'll review the situation then.
-Masturbation is allowed. (I know this isn't the advised method, but we'll see what happens)
-I'll endeavour to update this thread every day, with what happened and how I feel about it.
-If I find myself 'getting the urge' to use porn, I will meditate + do breathing practice for 10 minutes.
That's it for now...