Marnia, and others have written that when friends become lovers, it often changes for the worse. Yet she and others have also written that when a couple falls in love, thier brains release chemicals which make them want to be caring and intimate (at least for a while). If people in love release a lot of oxycontin (guess that is how it is spelled,) why wouldn't it hold together friends becoming lovers? Also a lot of happy marriages started as friendships as well. I have always been baffled by this, in my personal experience I have never had a boyfriend who was a friend for a long time first, but it doesn't sound bad. My theory is that when friends become lovers and thier friendship hits the skids soon after, they weren't deeply enough "in love" at first, and/or weren't planning on having a committed, exclusive relationship (or one was and the other wasn't.) I would like to read Marnia's thoughts on this, along with other people's. I am thinking that as they are so familiar with each other the "honeymoon period" is shortened quite a bit-dunno.