I write this post because I have read some people's blogs on porn recovery and I believe many are being way too hard on themselves. Just being able to recognize you have a problem and doing something about it is the first step.
But relapse shouldn't be about starting all over again. A new mindset is in order.
I think about the Super Mario video game I use to play as a kid. Recovery is somewhat like that. You move up a level each time you play just like the game. If you fall into a pit of fire in Level 8. You don't go back to level one. You start at level 8 again.
So you have had a couple mishaps in the past week. So what? You still didn't jerk off the whole week or the past two weeks. Think about it? You are on another level compared to the ones that jerk off to porn everyday. Those people don't realize they aren't even playing the game. I sure as hell didn't either up until I found this website.
Here's another thing to ponder. Consider you abstain from P/M starting in January. Now let's say you made it to week two and relapsed. Then you made it to 4 weeks your next. Then in between you had a few mishaps. By the way, you are allowed that, we are only human. So let's say for the whole year you averaged about 1 relapse a month. That's 12 P/M month out of the whole year!!!! Now is that so bad. Some people could knock that out in a few days. Now think if you did that for 5 years. That's 60 P/M. That's pretty darn good don't you say? Imagine how your body must feel now. Your routines will slowly start to change.
You see, the game (your recovery) starts the day you decided to change your life for the better. It doesn't ever reset. You are not starting all over again each time you relapse. Each day you will get stronger and stronger. Change your mindset. Change your life.