You've said that avoiding orgasm can be very difficult/challenging if one is in a new relationship, ie: the honeymoon phase. Can you elaborate on why this is the case? Are there other hormones which you haven't found a way to 'mitigate' the effects of yet, so that the drive for orgasmic sex isn't able to be easily stilled, or is there some protective effect that mitigates or lessens the negative effects of orgasm?
I ask because my partner and I are not experiencing any obvious post orgasm negative effects, and we're finding it somewhat difficult to avoid orgasm entirely. We honestly feel as much in love as we did 12 years ago on our first Vegas "honeymoon" trip. ( We are not legally married, and that trip didn't occur until we had been together for a number of years.) We work together every day, we commute together and work in the same department. We cook together and eat all our meals together unless one of us has to be away from the office for a meeting or training. (Which has been limited to a handful of days over the course of the last 12 years.) We always go to bed together and get up together.
Since first reading about your book, we adjusted our behaviors to include at least one hour of snuggling or bonding activities every day, even if it is just snuggling up and going back to sleep in the mornings - which is about twice much as was normal for us (the morning time usually didn't happen on weekdays). On the days we did Karezza or had orgasmic sex, the time together in skin to skin contact more than tripled from our normal amount of skin to skin contact.
Oddly enough, over the last two years, I'd kept track of when we made love - but only because I was also tracking all kinds of other things in my life - what I ate, how I slept, when I got my periods, how I felt physically, when I had hot flashes, days off, etc, as I was trying to eliminate some annoying IBS flareups, some insomnia issues and to better track my cycles as I approach menopause. You'll find it amusing that I chose to note the love making events in my notebook by drawing a heart with an arrow through it! (But nothing else) Now I have to use codes so that I know what happened, and when: BB, PIVBB (Karezza), PIVOGS (accidental or intentional) and note how many days since each of us last had an orgasm, and now I put in notes to help me know what to try more of . . . so now I need a bigger Moleskine!
I'll keep noting things as we go along. At this point, we're approaching each love making event freely, although we are keeping sex to no more often than every three days and approaching it without an intention of orgasm, although if one happens, it happens. It's certainly gotten easier to tell when we're getting overly aroused, and we've found things that feel amazing, but which are not orgasm triggers. I can't believe I didn't know that the insides of my wrists were so sensitive!