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hi webadmin!

Situation

In the Phase 1 of The Ecstatic Exchanges (first two weeks period)

1A. Is it ok if lick lovingly my wife's nipple while we cuddle and snuggle on the bed?

Note: Q#1A is not a heated foreplay since im not planning to engage to sex.

1B. Is it ok if we engage to a loving and gentle calming foreplay like french kissing and touching and holding her breast lovingly while we cuddle and snuggle on the bed?

1C. Is it ok if me and my wife take a bath together naked?

I'm planning to take this Exchange of the Day as a practice example with my wife:

Quote:
"Bathing Exchange. While you fill the tub, give each other a standing hug for at least a minute. Feel the energy flowing between you. Now, gently undress each other and bathe together (or soak in a hot tub). If bathing, be sure to wash your lover rather than yourself. If you shampoo, do that for each other, too. If something needs shaving, try gently shaving your partner."

Also if i accidentally have a wet dream and it cause an orgasm hangover.

2A.What should i do while i am in a state of orgasm hangover?

2B. Should still continue the Phase 1 Exchange?

3. Why do females fell inloved and cared if you just look at them in a loving way?

In the Phase 2 of The Ecstatic Exchanges (third week period)

4. if i decided to have a yab yum sex position. what should i do why my hands to my wife?

Also any creative suggestions on what should i say to her while in yab yum sex position?

Note: base in Q#4 please remember that i penetrate inside my wife's vagina yab yum sex position.

Re: The Ecstatic Exchanges

sparks wrote:
Also if i accidentally have a wet dream and it cause an orgasm hangover.

2A.What should i do while i am in a state of orgasm hangover?

Wet dreams can be caused by having too many fantasies during the day. Observe your mind and don't do in your mind, in your thoughts, what you wouldn't do in "real" life. When we start practicing Karrezza, we still have many unhealthy fantasies. We need to learn to replace them with loving and respectful thoughts.
It's a matter of self-observation.

If you fall (have an orgasm), start from the beginning again. It can be a learning experience: if you are in a state of self-observation (observe your thoughts, your feelings, your actions) you can start to notice what difference one orgasm makes. We all fall at the beginning, but that's how we learn to walk. Start again your practices from the beginning.

The Ecstatic Exchanges

Hi Webadmin

Thanks again for your time but this five questions remain unaswered of my previous posts...

Situation

In the Phase 1 of The Ecstatic Exchanges (first two weeks period)

1. Is it ok if lick lovingly my wife's nipple while we cuddle and snuggle on the bed?

Note: Q#1A is not a heated foreplay since im not planning to engage to sex.

2. Is it ok if we engage to a loving and gentle calming foreplay like french kissing and touching and holding her breast lovingly while we cuddle and snuggle on the bed?

3. Is it ok if me and my wife take a bath together naked like the example below (The Bathing Exchange)?

I'm planning to take this Exchange of the Day as a practice example with my wife:

Quote:
"The Bathing Exchange

While you fill the tub, give each other a standing hug for at least a minute. Feel the energy flowing between you. Now, gently undress each other and bathe together (or soak in a hot tub). If bathing, be sure to wash your lover rather than yourself. If you shampoo, do that for each other, too. If something needs shaving, try gently shaving your partner."

4. i notice if i already eaten a deliscious cake (caring love-making) what's the purpose of bothering inserting my penis to my wife's vagina (icing) if i have no reason to ejaculate in the end?

Quote:
So, have a lot of foreplay during which you can forget about what your penis thinks but concentrate on loving your wife, then put a 5 minutes limit on penetrative sex. After the set amount of time, withdraw and carry on loving your wife with your eyes, heart and hands, allowing your penis to cool down. Then, once your session is finished, lay on your back and "transmute" upwards your sexual energy as described below.

5. After i relax for about 20 mins. after my transmute of sexual energy can i go back again to make love my wife in a caring love making penetrate-5min-sex?

Quote:
You can practice this really anytime, and as much as you want. You don't even need to be lying down. If for example you are at the office and you find yourself lusting over the secretary with the wonderbras, you can practice the exercise above even sitting at your desk.

6- Practice any other activities that make you feel good, like gardening, meditating, volunteer to help in your community, play with the cats or your dog, etc...

Thanks :)

The Ecstatic Exchanges

Sparks,

I am happy to learn that you are about to start practicing some of the Exchanges with your wife.

As to your three questions, they are really only variations on all the same question you asked in your first message.
I already replied to this question in my first message to you:
http://www.reuniting.info/node/400#comment-195
Please, read again, and try to understand what I was trying to tell you.

And also remember what I told you before: my answers will be worthless compared to the experience you will gain once you try things out for yourself.

Give yourself some time to practice everything you've learned so far, try to follow my advice and see how it goes. In a week or two, you would have learned a lot. If things don't go smoothly by then, post again, tell us what you did and what went wrong. If on the other hand everything goes fine, then do come back to tell us about it! :)

Have loving fun!

The Ecstatic Exchanges

my comment above pertains to your first three points.

Be aware that when you edit a post, not everyone sees the edited version. People who receive the posts in their mail (see forum subscriptions at the very top) will only have seen your first version. So, make sure you use your preview button and submit only when you are sure your post is final.

your Q4: nobody forces your to penetrate your wife Wink Actually, during the first two weeks, if it helps to prevent you from having an orgasm, it's a good idea not to penetrate her. After that, do as you and your wife feel, but be aware that there is an energetic exchange that takes place when both of you are connected, and this sexual connection, when not followed by an orgasm, can be revitalizing and healing.

your Q5: do as you and your wife wish. Note however that you validate the point I was making: we males are conditionned to stop only when we orgasm. If we don't orgasm, we don't know when to stop and the tendency is to always want more. You prove me right :)
Again, asking questions and reading answers is useful, but only to a point: practice and observe what goes in your mind during the practice and be clear on your motivations and the consequences (good or bad) of what you do.

Q4 and Q5 are contradictory: which do you want: not penetrate her at all, or penetrate her, again and again. (no, you don't need to answer that! Wink ).

Blessings.