My beloved soul mate has a penis injury that is quite debilitating. The inner balloon structure fractured years ago and instead of getting a normal erection, it swells at the base and can be easily bent during penetration and intercourse, which is also very painful for him. He has developed a kind of fear of sexual arousal from it and mainly abstains from sexual activity of any kind.
We do have a very loving relationship otherwise, fascinating conversations and we love each other's company.
He has some hang-ups because he is resistant to mutual masturbation (it's not REAL sex) and the idea of orgasm resistance frightens him even though he's a practitioner, because it has mainly been because of pain, not choice.
I would like to open his mind to the world of wonderful, non-penetration or orgasm driven lovemaking. The idea I'm trying to put forward to him is orgasms are OK to have, but not required, but this is a hard sell so far. I would like to share with him the information on this site, but I'm sure the emphasis on orgasm avoidance and balanced brain chemistry would scare him right away from it.
We do have affectionate interactions and I would like to involve him with trying karezza. I enjoy periods of abstaining from orgasm as a personal kink and think we would have a great time practicing it together.