Here's my story... Im only 23, eat healthy, exercise regularly, and not to sound conceited but I look good. I have no problems being social with women but when it comes time for sex i have an inability to obtain/maintain an erection. I also have a low sex drive. I have to pop sex pills about an hour before a "sexual encounter" and you obviously cant predict all encounters which makes this really inconvenient. All this is having a negative effect on my relationships and self-esteem as a man.
I've tried everything, I went to the doctor - my T levels are normal, blood pressure is fine - he said it might be psychological which is not the answer I wanted. The only time i have no problem getting an erection is when i look at porn. I've been masturbating to porn regularly (4-5x a week at least?) since I was 12 years old and when I stumbled across Marnia's article (at http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cupids-poisoned-arrow/201003/porn-go...) I connected the dots.
I mean it makes sense, I'm so used to watching these porn fantasies that when it comes to REAL sex my little man wont perform. It's like I conditioned myself to only be aroused by jacking off and watching videos. I also noticed that over the years my erections (even with watching porn) are becoming less rigid and Im starting to become desensitized with "normal" porn and have to view stuff thats more "hardcore". This is all embarrassing but at the same time it feels good to get it off my chest and know I'm not alone. I am officially DONE with porn, and Marnia I wish I would have read your article a long time ago.
My question is, do you think I'll be able to fully recover from this? Or will I be permanently "desensitized"? I plan on abstaining from porn/masturbation as long as possible and reporting any results so that it could possible help/encourage others. If any are going through what I'm going through or can offer advice please chime in...