I was reading another thread and stumbled on this response that Marnia gave to someone talking about bonding behaviors:
"Bonding behaviors are *always* a good idea! In fact, some people swear that's the only adjustment they need for a closer, more harmonious relationship. Maybe you two will be lucky."
This is awesome! Ya mean it's possible I might not have to give up regular sex and orgasm with a mate?! I understand that masturbating is out now because it caused so much havoc with my relationships and a whole host of other issues. The best thing for me now is to continue my experiment with resisting masturbation and porn but this post offers me hope. If I'm going to orgasm I want it to be with somebody else...and with lots of bonding behaviors thrown in all around. Wonder if I'll have luck in this department?