This blog post is a bit of a distress signal. I just relapsed and now I feel horrible.
I am a frequent reader of psychologytoday.com, and today I came across these two recent blog posts on it. I don't think I necessarily agreed with the articles, but they caught me in a vulnerable state of mind. See, after going a week and a few days without masturbating to porn, I started having some cravings. Then, hoping to find some interesting reading material to distract myself from the cavings, I went to psychologytoday.com, and came across two blog posts that kinda said that masturbating to porn is OK. I classify myself as a porn addict; so, me reading these articles was somewhat like a drug addict coming across articles that say doing drugs isn't so bad for you. Even if, deep down the addict knows it is bad for him, he may use a Timothy Findley type of scholar as an excuse to abuse LSD. I used these guys' posts as an excuse to relapse.
I'm not a scientist, so I can't scientifically say which side is right and which side is wrong. But I think I'm just going to trust how I feel. And when I abstain from porn and masturbation for a while, I feel great. And right now, after a relapse, I feel awful.
Marnia, feel free to delete this post if you feel that your work is under attack in the links that I posted. The second post in particular seems to be directly addressing your work. I don't post it to upset you, just to make you aware of what some of the dissenting voices are saying, so that you can maybe reassure me and other fellow porn-addicts that it's worth trying to abstain from porn. But don't feel like you have to defend yourself if you don't want to. Like I said, I am well aware that I feel crappy after this relapse, and that, just a couple of days ago before my relapse, I felt sky high. I'm sure a lot of other men on this forum can look to their own personal experience when making a decision.
"Is pornography addictive for men or women? No more so than any other pleasurable activity. Use of pornography triggers the release of neurochemicals into the brain, the neurochemicals that relate to sexual activity, that cause the physiological arousal responses of lubrication, erection, flushing and increased heart rate. Pleasurable neurochemicals like oxytocin and dopamine are released into the brain. These are all the ways our bodies work, to get us to do things that serve our bodies, and our species. We get similar bursts of "happy" neurochemicals when we accomplish something difficult, like climbing a mountain, getting a new car, or killing an animal to provide dinner for our families. The things that feel good are things that through history, our species survived by the success of these activities. Why does sex feel good? So that we do it, as often as possible, to spread our genes and preserve the human race. Labeling the functions of our normal neurochemical activity and sexual desires as pathological or addictive is just moralism. Not therapy."
"If you read certain authors on this site, you might reach the conclusion that masturbation and pornography are the end all of the universe."