I've been completely porn-sober since March. March was my second slip-up after a four to six month period of success.
Porn takes you outside the norm of what you think sex should be. It takes you to "everything goes" land where it's okay to abuse and hurt women and it doesn't matter if love exists in the couple. In fact, the less love, the more depravity, the better! When you're fully addicted you can see nearly ANYTHING happen on screen...hell...I was happily watching urination, vomit, people hitting and abusing each other, people with disabilities being humiliated and mistreated, even people having trash dumped on them without even thinking about it. It was disgusting but I didn't care. When my mind was in "the porn space" anything went.
So in March when I had my last slip-up I clicked on some of the stuff I knew I had always liked and just got this horrid feeling of, "WHAT THE HELL AM I WATCHING?" The addict was gone and I was seeing porn as myself, with my rational and sane eyes and it was completely disgusting.
Have you ever clicked the "x" in the corner of the page the SECOND the orgasm was over? Have you ever had that feeling of "ugh what the hell IS this shit" once the sexual desire is exhausted, where it stops being hot and is suddenly completely filthy and disgusting? Once you stop watching porn and you go a while without it, that "what the hell is this shit" feeling will kick in the second you see it. I can't promise it works that way for everyone but it has for me so far.
I should specify I'm female and gay so I'm not completely in the same boat as most straight male users on this site but I've watched pretty much the same porn as most of you describe watching. Porn wasn't about what kind of sex I liked, it was about seeing intense and violent and exciting stuff.