Hi I just recently got the book Cupid's Poisoned Arrow and I'm on the third chapter. My question is, when it comes to attracting a new partner that is unfamiliar with the karezza method, how do I go about it? Would the person judge me for being nontraditional? Should I be honest before we physically unite for the first time? And if so do you think my bonding behavior would be interpreted as being manipulative?
Should I bring up the subject of karezza later on the road, after already having mated or can it be brought about from the beginning of the relationship? I'm kind of asking this because I assume that most people are far too acquainted with the mating program rather than a bonding program at least.. for people in my general area.
I know it might even seem like a redundant question. Like how else is one supposed to start a relationship if not through the bonding program.. but once you've bonded you do do the you know... And people do give up on the bonding and start to view sexuality with a different cynicism.
Also, what are the psychological effects of one who has not really 'mated' with a woman yet, and being older than an 'appropriate age' to mate?