First of all I want to say that I don't mean to offend any woman or anyone for that matter about the following post.
Most men are guilty of putting women on a pedestal. I myself included. We believe their beauty is the cure to our unhappiness. They bring us such great relief to be around. Porn is very much the same. The feelings we have for it are so intense that for a moment in time and there on after we are unwilling to give it up. We trick are minds into believing that our secret relationship with porn is okay.
By putting women on a pedestal, you give your power over to them. Your self-worth is tied to them.
By putting porn on a pedestal, you give your power over to these images. Your self-worth is tied to them.
There is a big difference between appreciating a woman's beauty versus putting a woman's beauty on a pedestal. When you appreciate a woman, you appreciate who she is without any ties to your self-worth. You are comfortable in your own skin and are not afraid to be yourself and speak your mind. But when you put a woman on a pedestal, you give up who you are in order to keep her. You feel edgy and nervous around her because you don't value your own self-worth
Viewing porn on a pedestal is very much the same. It gives you so much satisfaction. It has so much perceived value in your life. You feel edgy and anxious when you aren't around it. The thought of giving it up is unfathomable. Yet it's all an illusion just like the perfect, flawless women you see in the magazines. Guess what? They have bad breath in the morning just like we do.
And that's where this comparison stops. Women truly are beautiful people and can provide a lifetime of love in one's life.
Porn on the other hand has no value at all even though it tricks us into thinking it does. It lowers are self-worth and increases our neediness for it. It tricks us into an unhealthy and evergoing relationship rather than encourage us to seek relationships with real women. It's needy just like we are, always trying to get our attention so that we don't leave it alone. It's always asking us for money every time we want more of it (okay some women are capable of doing this too, :)
In the the end, let's not fool ourselves. Let us stop putting porn on a pedestal and see it for what it really is, images that provide no value in our lives.