Prostitutes, what should I do with them?

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Hello everyone!

I want to share with you a little bit of my story surrounding this whole porn addiction and how I got involved with prostitutes.

Most of you already know plenty of me, but here it goes again:

I'm 25 years old and I've been watching porn the last 12 years. Never really considered myself addicted until about 2-3 years ago, thanks to the rise of tube sites which make porn so easily and freely available.

I have always lacked motivation to go out and flirt with real women because porn basically drained me from all my energy.

Once I became 25 years old, the pressure of being a virgin started to increase, so I decided to lose my virginity to a prostitute.

My first time with a prostitute was very good. It was spontaneous and not planned. She was very hot too. I was feeling very horny so I decided to visit a brothel.

My horniness was stronger than my nervousness so I didn't have any erection problem.

However, I noticed something interesting. I was pounding her hard from many positions, but somehow I wasn't mentally excited enough and I didn't feel the need to cum. That is UNTIL she started talking dirty to me, and THEN I was able to cum.

I thought about this a lot and then concluded that it was related to porn. I always preferred porn with women moaning and talking dirty. Also, if I'm having sex and the woman is silent, then I have this belief that she is not enjoying herself and that I'm being bad in bed, which makes it harder for me to achieve orgasm.

Anyway, the pressure of being a virgin was mostly gone, but I still continued with my porn habits.

I continued visiting prostitutes but then I started having erection problems. I became very worried because these prostitutes were VERY hot (they looked like the top pornstars), yet I wasn't able to get it up or at best achieve semi-hard erections.

Some things I started to notice:

1) If the prostitute just laid down and let me do all the work, then I wasn't able to get an erection.

2) If the prostitute took control and grabbed my dick and started sucking it, then I was able to get an erection and have sex normally.

So I concluded that porn was definitely the cause of my impotence.

I started the 100 days without orgasm challenge. You can search for the thread here in this section.

After 15 days, I couldn't take it, the urge was SO strong that I had to go visit a brothel. I had sex with 2 prostitutes, one after the other, and didn't have ANY erection problems at ALL. Then I went home and masturbated 3 times.

2 days after that, I went to a brothel again, but this time my erection was way weaker and she had to help me out.

I lasted a total of 35 days without porn.

Then I somehow convinced myself that I was "cured" or that just a little peek wouldn't do harm. I started to watch porn again, but not very frequently, something like 3 times a week.

After some days I had a bad experience with a prostitute. Everytime I tried to penetrate her I would go soft. She then tried to make me cum with a blowjob but eventually gave up.

This whole impotence thing is very frustrating.

My plan is to abstain myself from porn and masturbating and at the same time train my brain to real sex using prostitutes.

The bad thing about having sex with prostitutes is that it is not satisfying on an emotional level.

Another alternative would be to give up prostitutes completely. The problem with this is that I probably wouldn't be able to abstain from orgasm until I find a partner, and that would take time.

Also, I have access to VERY HOT prostitutes, so deep inside I don't want to quit visiting them.

My main fear is that I know that most regular women do not act like pornstars on bed, so I'm afraid that I won't be able to get it up once I find a partner.

I am very confused and I really don't know what to do or what plan to take.

Some help would be greatly appreciated.

Getting rid of impotence and performance anxiety is the thing that I most desire.

This is a little bit

outside my realm...even after five years of listening to you guys on this forum. This site is actually about sustaining relationships, not sustaining erections for paid encounters.;-)

When you get it figured out, let us know. Smile

Haha, doing karezza with a

Haha, doing karezza with a prostitute, where do you find these, give me one :D

I would advice you not to have any ejaculation for 10 days, then no matter how strong is the need, do it, just O N C E, not 10923021 times!
Either masturbation or with a prostitute. The key is to have a regime. If you achieve that, it will be easier for you to recover. Currently I see you don't have a regime you are rather compulsive in regards to sex. After the 15 days start doing it Monday, Thursday and Saturday. And not more than once a day. You may not consciously feel that, but it's really important for the brain chemistry.

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My main fear is that I know that most regular women do not act like porn stars on bed, so I'm afraid that I won't be able to get it up once I find a partner. [/quote]

Ah , don't worry, you'll be just fine, if you have a regime, you'll get excited from everything, including regular women who are not even active but only stand still and wait for you to do the things. Start with prostitutes or masturbation (or mixed) but do it on schedule (3 days from the week as I suggested, and only O N C E) until you find a girlfriend and then quit both and do it only with the girlfriend. After 3-4 months, I bet my reputation of an ex porn addict that you'll be excited from regular girls even if they stand like stone.
By the time you're 27, you'll be fine as hell.

And really, quit the damn porn, I can still feel subtle effects of the porn image I saw 2-3 weeks ago, I didn't even masturbate on that, imagine how ultra ultra ultra ultra sensitive my brain should be when it comes to such stimuli. When it sees such image, it just wants to go inside the MONITOR AND HAVE IT, remember it for a lifetime, marry it, be in love with it etc!!! SICK!! 1 SECOND of porn is enough to start the process in your brain, even if you don't feel anything consciously.

If you want a relationship with a woman...

Consider quitting seeing prostitutes for good. Your body was telling you something wasn't right when you couldn't have erection or orgasm under certain circumstances. Long term pleasure is tied to deeper intimacy with the opposite sex and not the short term pleasure of orgasmic sex.

The idea is that you can't rewire your brain for a *healthy* relationship with a woman if you are still paying other women (who are in a form of captivity) for sex. In your experience you have identified porn as a problem that you would like to no longer have in your life. This goes hand in hand with visiting brothels. Check out some sex addicts anonymous websites/books. They may prove valuable. First book I read on this topic was called "Don't Call It Love," Patrick Carnes PHD. I didn't walk away thinking I was a sex addict, but there were more than enough things I read about that people have done that it occured to me if I didn't try to stop where I was headed (including thinking about/secretly planning a visit to my first prostitute) that I could end up like one of the people described in the book. I was lucky because visiting a prostitute was a line that I had very strong values inside that wouldn't let me cross. I know that I would be just another customer if I didn't try to stop my porn use and acting out sexually.

Porn has been called "advertising" for the prostitution industry, or as someone else put it "a gateway drug to prostitution."

When you described your time after you quit both porn and brothels your libido returned to something like normal...then you describe a typical binge. Your binge included sex with prostitutes and also masturbating 3 times. I think you may need some outside help in kicking this habit. Sooner or later, if you don't stop, the risks of visiting the brothel will catch up to you. This isn't meant as a lecture or moralizing, just a sober assessment of the risks.

Can you think of times when things happened to you that you probably didn't expect or want as a result of visiting a prostitute? The common problems are risk of infection from STD's, including HIV, sting operations and/or getting busted for pandering /solicitation. You may want to seek outside help and get a counselor who will work with you on this before anything like this happens to you. You are in a place that can help you get out of this and toward a healthy relationship with the opposite sex. It's not gonna be easy but it is possible, even likely, if you give this your full attention and make a commitment to do it.

I was very close to being in the same boat with you so I have sympathy for your struggle. I'm *certain* if I had gone, I would have been going back for at least a few years. Thankfully I was able to stop it before it began at all. You have all this sexual energy and it's like what else can I do? Regular girls don't just want to do it all the time so why don't I just go back to the brothel...something you have taught yourself about and is a release for you. Porn is hard enough to quit by itself the brothel visits just make it harder. Do yourself a favor and seek a SAA meeting or the services of a health professional. Unfortunately, with the advent of porn there are plenty of guys who have the same problem you have so you are not alone and help is available. Best wishes brother good luck!

ps I hope this post makes it clear that "Karezza with a prostitute" is not the solution I would ever advocate! LOL

@back2life: Thanks a lot

@back2life: Thanks a lot man! Your post is EXACTLY what I needed to read :D I will start a regime.

@Dano_Clarke: I will quit prostitutes once I start dating real women Wink Thanks for the advice.

Good luck man

Hats off to ya when you do quit.

I hate to be a Debbie Downer but you may think it will be easier to quit going to prostitutes if you have a girlfriend....sorry to say it will still be very difficult. There's also the related problem of when you will reveal to your partner that you have had numerous experiences with prostitutes. Granted, it would be very helpful to have the loving support of a partner as you attempt to separate from the sex industry. This person, however, will be hard to find unless you show a commitment to changing your ways. What woman would find your habit acceptable for her new boyfriend? That's a tough dilemma my friend but I believe you can find her if you are willing to try something new.

It may be helpful to take a look at your sexual anxiety and ED as a *symptom* of the larger problem of visiting the brothel and the porn as a supplement to brothel visits. This is connected to the fact that you can't have an emotional connection to the prostitutes, although many times this is glamorized in the movies i.e. Pretty Woman. As one pimp scoffed in a documentary "Love?! Love is for the tricks (johns)." The pimp cultivates cruelty and callousness so he can make a living off the sex trade. He abuses them, keeps them high with drugs or alcohol, and makes love to them from time to time to keep them thinking he has emotions for them. His goal is to so manipulate the woman that she sells herself to many men yet her emotional loyalty remains his, as opposed to any customer who might get ideas about loving her or having a relationship. Most of them would never marry a "whore" anyway and she internalizes what people treat her as: she feels utterly worthless. In this twisted business, he often makes her call him "Daddy" further creating a psychological bond in the abused woman. To a pimp, tenderness and affection are just illusions meant to keep the customers coming back. I suspect you probably have learned of this first hand already.

Most men pay prostitutes so they *don't* have to have the emotional side. They can just have sex, feel sated and move on. Like porn, there is also a lot of variety. This website is all about how to get together with a partner and have a real intimate and lasting *emotional connection.* This rich connection can be an insulation against many forms of temptation including alcohol/drugs or brothels. Right now it looks like you have been in the habit of separating your emotions from sex and that will take time to unlearn. Essentially, quitting the brothel is a prerequisite for any kind of lasting relationship. That's why I suggested finding a counselor.

I also want to point out I'm coming from a place of understanding. To be honest dude there's no man who wouldn't be tempted on some level to have sex with an attractive woman with no strings. Even if he had to pay. The thing about intimacy though, is that it creates accountability and often a person who advises or acts in your best interest can be more consistent than we can be in identifying things we don't even realize we are doing that might harm us, or at best pointing out little things that we could improve, in a loving way.

ps Prostitutes, despite their lowly status, ARE ALSO "real women." They are simply in sexual servitude, often addicted to drugs/alcohol, and a high percentage come from extremely abusive homes.

As a "real woman"...

I (speaking for myself only) find it scary, both from an emotional level AND a physical one, to think of dating a man who freqents brothels or visits a prostitute any time, anywhere. If you truly want a relationship, instead of using our bodies purely for your sexual pleasure, I encourage you to put much effort and months, if not years, between using prostitutes and beginning a real relationship. Sex is not intimacy, even though it is a very intimate act. Putting the cart before the horse leads to a disaster, which is what basing a relationship purely on sexual gratification is doing. I think porn and prostitutes encourage the very false promise that a no-strings-attached encounter will give you something wonderful. I guess mud probably does taste good to someone who is starving, but it doesn't nourish or sustain the person who eats it. Self-worth is the best place, I think, to start. Each one of us DESERVES caring tenderness, and love. But we have to *live* as though that's true first, so that we will believe it ourselves, and then attracting it into our lives will just happen naturally. I think that once you value yourself enough to put the acts that pull you down behind you, that a "real woman" will come into your life and fulfill you in ways you can only dream of now.

I don't mean to sound judgemental, but I do want to offer the point of view of a woman - a normal, non-porno, non prostitutey, rea-life woman who loves sex within the boundaries of a caring, loving relationship. -Which, if I'm not mistaken, is what you want.

I wish you the best of luck in your journey and hope to read posts from you in the future.

:p

[quote=Penny]I (speaking for myself only) find it scary, both from an emotional level AND a physical one, to think of dating a man who freqents brothels or visits a prostitute any time, anywhere.[/quote]

Every woman thinks like that and that is why most (if not all) men who visit prostitutes keep it secret and will NEVER reveal it to their partner.

I would never cheat my partner with a prostitute though.

[quote=Penny]If you truly want a relationship, instead of using our bodies purely for your sexual pleasure, I encourage you to put much effort and months, if not years, between using prostitutes and beginning a real relationship. [/quote]

I'm not really looking for a relationship. I don't even want to get married. I'm very happy by myself, I just want to have sex occasionally.

[quote=Penny]Sex is not intimacy, even though it is a very intimate act. Putting the cart before the horse leads to a disaster, which is what basing a relationship purely on sexual gratification is doing. I think porn and prostitutes encourage the very false promise that a no-strings-attached encounter will give you something wonderful. I guess mud probably does taste good to someone who is starving, but it doesn't nourish or sustain the person who eats it. Self-worth is the best place, I think, to start. Each one of us DESERVES caring tenderness, and love. But we have to *live* as though that's true first, so that we will believe it ourselves, and then attracting it into our lives will just happen naturally. I think that once you value yourself enough to put the acts that pull you down behind you, that a "real woman" will come into your life and fulfill you in ways you can only dream of now.[/quote]

I just want to get laid :p

If you just want to get laid

then using prostitutes should do the trick, no pun intended. It just seems that over the long run, it'd get old being so close to another human being, proximity wise - being inside of her and all - but not having the kind of closeness that makes you want to fly to the moon together. Really, a blow-up doll would do for getting laid. Whatever, man. It's your life. But I think you're missing out by choosing simply to get off. I wish you well.

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[quote=Penny]Really, a blow-up doll would do for getting laid. Whatever, man. It's your life.[/quote]

No it wouldn't and you know it. That's like saying that using a fleshlight and watching porn would do for getting laid.

Hooked on hookers

I lost it to a prostitute when I was a teenager, been using them off-and-on between relationships for last forty years. I always treat them with total respect, they are not all drug addict sex slaves; some of them are very intelligent, independent business professionals, and wealthy, providing an essential service, 'the oldest profession'. It does not have to be a humiliating experience, quite the opposite, can be very empowering if you approach it with the right attitude. No need for a guilt trip, to be enjoyed, but
moderation in all things, even with the Goddess. Wink OM

I gotta ask...

Do you think there are any connections between losing your virginity to a prostitute, a life long habit off-and-on habit of visiting them and whatever the reason is you have found your way here?

"I asked my doctor about Karezza and now I have an enormous penis!"

I think that continuing

I think that continuing having sex with prostitutes will make it hard for you to get started having sex with non prostitutes. As you say these girls are insanely hot. THey are also damn good in bed and they focus on pleasing you exclusively. Not having had any sex with ordinary girls in all likelyhood means that the road to having sex with ordinary girls that are as good looking as the prostitutes will be very long. I am guessing you are not as good looking as they are. They are 9s and 10s and if you are a 7 or a 4 you are not going to be able to hook up with girls htat are 9s or 10s unless you develop great skills at seducing women. That most certainly can be done with a lot of hard work. It is what pickup artists do. But it takes them a lot of work on inner growth and a lot of practice that includes a lot of humiliating failure. Being able to keep your orgasm frequency down will give you an increae in radiance and confidence that will increase your attractiveness but it is only a small part of the hard work needed to get a 9 or a 10 if you do not look like it yourself.

THe contrast between how good the prostitutes look and hte girls you are INITIALLY going to attract is so huge that you will get trouble feeling attracted to them. THey will also sense this and hence not be attracted to you as much as if you realy wanted them. By having sex with the prostitutes you will also fullfill so much of your sexual needs that you reduce your incentives for wokring on attracting normal girls.

Having sex with the prostitutes also messes with your perception of things unless you have already had a lot of sex with other girls and you maintain sensible attitudes about it. Firstly, they do NOT all enjoy what the do. I can guarantee you that if you have sex with ten escorts and they all seem to get lots of physical pleasure from it then some of them are actually not even sexually aroused AT ALL. Sure some of them will feel sexual pleasure and some will even orgasm. Although most people think that they do not they are not aware of to what extent pure physical stimulation and the act of sex itself can be enough to get a girl of. I know this from having discussed it with several girls whom I know who sell sex (I don`t buy sex so they have no incentive to lie to me). However, what they also say is that it messes them up. With some they might enjoy it on a pure physical level but find it mentally tormenting. Some might in a sense enjoy it mentally as well enjoying the promiscuity but still over time develop issues based on treating their bodies like commoditites. Some might enjoy it mentaly and physically but only because they have numbed themselves down to not feel what they really feel about it. Some might enjoy it with custmers they find attractive and like but a lot of customers are ugly, have bad hygiene, have unattractive even repulsive personalities, suck in bed and might be asholes as well. Do you think after having fucked 3-4 guys she is not attracted to in one day she is suddenly enjoying sex with anotehr guy (you). No she has a sore vagina, is ired and fed up and wants to d o soemthing entirely diferent. IT takes a tremendous amount of emotional strength and depth to handle that without getting messed up. A 22 year old girl that sells sex because she wants money to party and buy clothes and doesn`t want to work hard for it and does not feel it will be bad for her because getting raped at 14 numbed her down so much she can`T realy feel intimacy anyway does not have that maturity and wisdom and so will get messed up.

I have talked to guys that have dated A LOT of strippers. What they say is that almost without exception strippers are very messed up emotionally. THeir lives are full of endless drama with multiple bad boy boyfriends, cocaine binges and they very often have an underlying hatred of men that they get from their work. Remember that these girls know every trick in the book about how to use men for cash. IF they can make a regular custumer fall in love with them so they can pump him for more cash they will do so. If they can make a drunk mans bill look like it is five times larger and so emtying his bank account they will do so. It is what they are trained to do in most strip joints. Doing that messes you up a lot and prostitutes are a more extreme version of the same.

I am not saying that there are no exceptions. I am sure there are a few girls who have an emotionally healthy background, who sell sex for reasons that truly feel ok for her and who enjoys what she does and who does not get injured from it. BUt such grils are 1 in 500 at most.

You should also remember that these grils are good at acting and you, having not had sex with regular women, are chanceless at judging wether or not they are enjoying it Most men can`T tell if their griflriends are faking. How would you then know if these girls are.

What I think is a good strategy is find a regular but infrequent frequency of masturbation like suggested and focus for the most part on sensations in your body NOT on images. THis will help you build up your sexul energy through a lwo frequency and reprogram your penis to respond to the physical sensations experienced not jsut imagery. Also masturbate very slowly and sensitively so as to retrain yourself to respond not only to hard handmovements. This will help you reprogram so you can have sex without erectilce dificulties.

Combine this with looking into pickup artist materials and star working on getting into realtionships with ordinary women.

I have the same issue

I have the same issue underdog. I stopped going to see "Prostitutes" do to Porn-related ED. When I say prostitutes I really mean escorts online. People may ask what the difference is.. to me I would never pick up a woman off the street. They are much cheapier, higher chance of STDs and usually on some type of drug. Escorts are usually very pricey, you meet them online and most of the 1s I met were going to College and of course,yes I know there is always a risk no matter if its a 200 dollar escort or a 50 dollar hooker.

Anyways, I've been sober from PMO for 22 days~23ish days now and my erections are so incredibly strong and spontaneous I would bet money I wouldnt have any ED issues. I've been thinking of visiting an escort I seen in the past and my bigger concern is that I'll O to fast. But I'm in the same boat as you man... I need to overcome my addiction for paying for sex and I know I will, though in recent days I really feel the urge to go... mainly to test myself and my new penis. Seeing as how most of my escort experiences in the past have been bad due to being limp or weak erect thanks to a long time porn addiction. If I had a girlfriend I would not be interested in an escort but... I don't. (I'm working on it)

I do not want to meet a special girl and be terrible in bed (last 1 minute) or worried of the unknown which is why I'd like to pay a visit to 1 (been doing online dating with lots of conversation with local woman). I know it sounds like a terrible excuse, and yes part of me just wants to go to have sex... but I feel if I can get this out of the way and I can leave this behind me knowing I've healed physically. Mentally I have a looooong ways to go when it comes to PMO.

I know my comments have little to no advice in helping you but I just wanted to let you know... your not the only one dealing with this man. Keep me posted , I'd like to know how your coming along with this issue.

Good luck.

Obsession w erection

Despite my tag line I really think the whole issue of ED and "getting my erection" back is secondary to the emotional/physical healing that takes place when we change our habits and rearrange our brains. There is a path to get ourselves out of old habits and that, to me, should be the focus. If we can develop new ways of behaving that excludes acting out sexually the erection issue will take care of itself. When someone writes about how they want an erection again it seems it's just because they want to be able to continue in the old way and their body isn't cooperating in some way. Instead of going to the deeper issue it seems we just focus on the surface like whether or not *my penis* can be erect or not under certain conditions. The problem isn't in our groin it's in our brains...and that's also where the solution lies.

Self critically after reading my posts above I realize I have to take my own advice. Haha I see my posts from a couple months ago and I'm like "that's the pot calling the kettle black." I haven't been able to quit porn or masturbation for anything more than three weeks after joining this forum in May.

Reuniting is a tool for recovery and a way to learn about a sacred sexual practice that fundamentally shifts one's attitude toward sex. I think for me to get clean I have to go to some meetings myself and not be ashamed of that process because lots of others have gone before me. I will start to take my own advice before I start to give it.

There's a lot more to recovery than the quitting/relapse cycle. We need people to sit down with and discuss our problems with in person. A blog is a great way to feel better but really if you are like me and are still struggling with sexual compulsions then it's time to visit a counselor or go to a meeting. I'm going to find one through the college I just enrolled in.

Good luck to everyone struggling with this. Prostitution is not "Pretty Woman." Yes there are people who make the decision and aren't sex slaves but what kind of world do we live in where people have to sell their bodies in order to get an education? Also what kind of lies have we bought into that tell us that it's ok to buy someones time and body as a commodity and not have any consequences thereafter?

"I asked my doctor about Karezza and now I have an enormous penis!"

nope

[quote=Dano_Clarke]Despite my tag line I really think the whole issue of ED and "getting my erection" back is secondary to the emotional/physical healing that takes place when we change our habits and rearrange our brains. There is a path to get ourselves out of old habits and that, to me, should be the focus. If we can develop new ways of behaving that excludes acting out sexually the erection issue will take care of itself. When someone writes about how they want an erection again it seems it's just because they want to be able to continue in the old way and their body isn't cooperating in some way. Instead of going to the deeper issue it seems we just focus on the surface like whether or not *my penis* can be erect or not under certain conditions. The problem isn't in our groin it's in our brains...and that's also where the solution lies.
"I asked my doctor about Karezza and now I have an enormous penis!"[/quote]

I think if someone wants his "erection back", on the contrary, he does NOT want to continue his old life style. I am sure most of us with ED can jurk off to porn with no problem, several times a day if needed. Unless you get to that point when you are with a pretty girl in your bed and you are faced with ED I am affraid it's impossible to truly understand. It's a terrible experience, indeed. It scares the bajesus out of you. These discussions about not being ready, or not having a right person near you, I think is nonsense. If you have low libido after decades of daily masturbation, if you can't get aroused without physical and visually strong stimulation, there is no room for discussion about ambiance and/or right person and stuff.

The bottom line I think there are two types of guys on this forums: with ED experience and without ED experience. And I am happy for those who are clever enough to control their MPO in time. They are clever. But the rest of us face slightly different issues. All we are left with is hope.

Wow...

That was a strongly worded response but I must say the way you characterize my argument is missing the point.

First I didn't say *everyone* struggling with ED induced by porn is in some way not trying to change or doesn't have "the right person." I never said a word about there being a "right person" or being "ready." I agree with you that those aren't productive avenues and don't help people who are suffering with this.

Let me also correct you and tell you that I have also had "performance issues" just like a lot of porn users. I would actually self-regulate my porn use and not use for a couple days in advance of seeing my girlfriend so I would be sure to get it up. Many times in my life, due to constant porn use, this didn't happen.

By the way, even though I have experienced ED myself whether I had or not does *not* invalidate my thoughts on the issue. One can not experience something and still understand what it must feel like, as in all human experience we are capable of empathy. I don't have to be a holocaust survivor to understand the intense suffering and absolute desperation of the victims. They would be the first to agree, more people should become aware of their ability to empathize with others, so as to learn to avoid these things in the future. Our commonalities really do trump our differences.

By this logic, no woman can experience an erection, does that mean their experience, opinions and insights are invalid? Of course not.

I'm pointing out that the problem isn't your dick, it's your brain. Focus on changing that and you'll be on the exact same road as I am and everyone else recovering from years of porn use.

There aren't "two types of guys" there's a bunch of humans trying to figure out what went wrong and what to do about it. There is *always* room for discussion my friend. How else will we evolve?

You DO know

that the problem is likely in your brain, right? It's just difficult to be patient when you're feeling fearful. Did you read Confinement's experience?

Good stuff

Good stuff Dano_Clarke. I never thought of it that way. I definitely agree with your comments. Especially when you said "When someone writes about how they want an erection again it seems it's just because they want to be able to continue in the old way and their body isn't cooperating in some way". Hmmmmm.... more thinking to do. Thanks for your time. -Confinement

I absolutely LOVE prostitutes

I must admit that I adore prostitutes and will probably continue visit them once in a while until I stop being single (I would never cheat my girl).

Having real sex with a prostitute and watching porn are VERY different things. Most of the time I feel very satisfied after fucking a prostitute.

Porn is different. While I don't have any feelings of regret or guilt afterwards, I never feel 'satisfied'. I just feel very tired and after some hours I want more and more.

I have experimented with shemale/transexual prostitutes and I have always regretted the encounters. I felt dirty and guilty, something that doesn't happen when having sex with real women. So sex with shemales is something I definitely won't do again. After experimenting with them I can understand how someone can feel regret or guilt after paying for sex.

I'm back a Reunited with one goal in mind: STOP THE FUCKING PORN.

Hey UD

Sounds like the escalation is picking up steam if you're acting out on an activity that is not consistent with your true sexual orientation (as you described it a while ago).

Got the porn blocker on your computer?

*big hug*

Yeah

Yeah, I definitely don't want porn to shape up my sexual tastes.

5 years ago I found transsexuals disgusting!

BTW I just re-read my original message and I said that prostitutes were not satisfying on an emotional level. Hmmm well that hasn't been my experience lately. I feel good after fucking a prostitute (zero guilt and regret) and I think I'm going to continue doing it once in a while (1 or 2 times per month) until I end up having a girlfriend.

And yeah porn blocker is on.

the law

don't forget that the more you do this the more you risk arrest. your face will be in the paper. you may spend a brief amount of time in a tight space with freaks like you can't comprehend.

I don't know is a prostitute

I don't know is a prostitute is a good idea on all these counts. But I admit I have considered it in the past!

Also I agree with back2life that one ejaculation on a consistent schedule is better than several in one day (LOL). Yes it is possible even without pornoooo

Every experiment

teaches you something useful!

BTW, for those of you still tempted by Internet porn, a guy just shared this tool, which I hadn't seen before:

Block your access to the Internet temporarily with "SelfControl."
He said:

If I have an urge to look at porn, I set SelfControl to 15 minutes and it blocks the Internet until the urge subsides. Or I set it so that the Internet is blocked the entire night so there is no way for me to go online if I get an urge to look or assuage the withdrawal-insomnia.