I just want to share a little tip, something I noticed this week.
Try using the phrase conserving sexual energy instead of abstinence or abstaining.
Abstinence implies suffering, sacrifice, pain, restraining from pleasure.
On the other hand, conserving sexual energy implies a lot of positive benefits, and it is way easier to motivate yourself to conserve sexual energy than it is to abstain.
Look at it as something sacred, something that has to be conserved for positive benefits and greater health.
Ancient texts have always recommended it.
I have removed the word abstinence from my vocabulary.