Hey guys, just wanted to share the idea of the zone. By this I mean the frame of mind that I get into before I 'fail' ( that is cheat, self stimulate, view, etc.). My rationale loses control. I know it's wrong, that the short term benefit of pleasure and release is followed by long term loss of energy, inability to think clearly, introverted transformation from normally extroverted personality, wanting to be left alone, a loss of emotional intelligence, etc. ( I could go on!). I mean my pleasure center totally takes over, seems that it gets my rational part of the brain to think that this is going to be my last time, that I need this to get on with whatever short term challenge I'm facing. It's an ugly side. It's like I have two people living inside my. This dark self emerges when enough time has passed that it needs a fix, when stress level rises, when I'm lonely, anxious, nervous, or even when bored. Can u guys relate to this or is this just unique to me? My solution is such a response to stress,boredom, loneliness, anxiety etc emerged from a learned behaviour, by associating this behaviour to stressful times, where the euphoric pleasure was the glue that reinforced such behaviour. So I have to unlearn this behaviour. I believe it is not enough to just not do the behaviour. The reason I turned to self stimulation was because it was pleasurable. I believe I have to substitute such a harmful but pleasurable response with a healthy but pleasurable response. This pleasurable response may take the form socializing ( call some people to just talk, ), going for a run or working out, taking a nap, playing video games or playing with a pet. Anything thatvis healthy, or a least not harmful, that u enjoy doing must be substituted is what I'm proposing. Any suggestions are appreciated, thanks.