Thank you for your excellent site. It has really opened my eyes. I thought I would share some tips I have come across about dealing with sexual energy.
THE site alchemicaltaoism.com has a lot of usefull tips on dealing with sexual energy, be it sublimating it without arousing it first or finding balance for those who do have sex but with some form of orgasm, particulary male multiple orgasm.
Especially the technique called Turtle breathing has shown itself to be remarkalby effective at sublimating sexual energy. You can find it on the page I linked to but you can also find further discusiion of it in Trunks personal practice forum on thetaobums.com.
ANotehr gem of a technique is Biels fire and water technique. Here you draw energy from the heart to the genitals and from the genitals to the heart. THis has the effect of cooling of the need for sexual release somewhat and also feels balancing for both the sexual centers and the heart. It is very plasurable to do. I am thinking this technique could be especially benefical for those who practice Karezza but have an accidental orgasmic slip now and then. By doing this technique I think it is possible to remove the orgasmic hangover to a large degree. See, this technique has been used by people who practiced chia style multiple orgasms in order not to overheat and get unbalanced. As it is higly successfull in oding that it should be able to do a lot in terms of balancing out the effects of one orgasm. Maybe not enitrely but it would be interesting to see what results people get with this.
The inner smile meditation can also be used for this puspose to some extent. It brings heart energy to wherever you choose in the body and you can use it to blend aggitated sexual energy circulating in the body with heart energy thus balancing it and "cooling it off".
This technique is great for singel men to get more yin energy: