I wont give my story since I'm not yet ready to start using internet for social interaction.
Ive been addicted for 8 years starting from 18. The reason why I starting to abstain was strange. It was a picture of a girl I liked at university posted on the internet. It could have been because I masturbated recently at that point I dont remember. But It was simply that. I just wanted to be able to share my life with the kind of girl that I like (and I will :D ).
So that was day zero the day I got a reason to stop. This is important. Without a reason you wont stop. Oh by the way my cravings used to kick in 3 days after my last self harm (masturbation/porn). So it went fine for the first 3 days but I think I had a slight craving but once I looked at the picture of the girl I liked the cravings were overcome by somthing stronger and my mind was at ease. I think at day 5 or something like that I decided it was time. .... time for what you ask? the biggest weapon I used to to fight p/m/o I put a random password on my computer (this stopped me going on my computer full stop) so I wont have access to internet at my house even If I wanted to watch porn. THIS IS IMPORTANT AND THE BEST ADVICE I CAN GIVE. you will always have a strong impulse to watch but your impulse has just been halved. as simple as that. To put it simply your mind has access to the information you have. If you know you dont have internet the mind(when I mean the mind I mean the subconsciouce) knows (that infromation) and it wont bother you as much. Its like putting a pint of beer in the house of an alcoholic, how long do you think he will last? this is my point, will power isnt infinte at a point it will break but the more you abstain the more time your will power will last.
Im denying myself access to internet at home untill I have seen that Im getting. Better means that I can trust myself to not watch and the cravings are weak enough that I can brush them aside. Once I reach that threshold I will buy a reformat cd and reformat my computer. I thought this will be 2 months mark and Im close to that point but I dont think Ive accumalated enough will power so now its 4 months. I still had access to the intenet but it was using the public library. my full plan is this I will only limit myself of one hour of internet a day once I start using the internet at home but intially Im going to have access to the internet but not actually use it for hmm 2 weeks. this is letting my mind to know that I can have internet and not use it.
Okay so no internet is one thing I used. what else. Nature walks. LONG WALKS. since I only work part time in work I had alot of time to do this. I use to get up early (6am) and head to the next nearest town which was 5 miles away and I walked along canal ways. I walked real slowly this gave my mind alot of time to think. I just want to tell you about this "thinking". spending time looking within yourself helps just thinking and getting to know urself. I use to let my mind drift to watever it wanted except pornography which I tried to blank but if the though arouse I hmm tried to see all my negative porn energy seep through my body, thats the best I can explain. Something strange started to happen my memory of past events started to get better and I mean real better I started to remember names emotions and events of my past life, this was invigorating. Once I reach my destination, which took 2-3 hours lol I went into the library and got books or went on the internet for 1 hour (maximum time I was allowed) then walk back home. but nature walks do help. I did this for like 2-3 weeks. I just want to tell you about this one time, it was at the end of my first week and I had the biggest craving while heading out and I actually intended to buy the reformat cd and watch porn but because I had so much to think and the craving subsided. This is the reason I actually thought that distance walking is good since wenever you get a craving, the time it will take to get home and on internet is so long that it just subsides with till power.
Thirdly I stopped watching televsion. I did this because I believe that watching televsion has no real benefit, you can know whats happening in the world by reading newspapaers. And televsion nowadays is like softcore pornography. Instaed I started reading. I try to read classics, the one ive read is "a hundred years of solitude" really good book.
Lastly lol (this is a long post) each morning I get up and use a calender to cross of another day. this helps. It gives you something to be proud of. Ive managed 45 days :) . oh and I sleep like 10 hours a day now and I had my first watching myslef watching porn dream it wasnt pleasent. but all these things tell me that my mind is fighting it. Im tried of writing now lol I will write some more in the future to let you guys know of my recovery but I only wrote this because this site and every in it has helped me so much.
start with a reason
block access to internet at home COMPLETLY
mark of each day in a calender to look at your progress and achievement
long nature walks to figh cravings
stop watching television
start reading or other hobbies to keep the mind "entertained"
My progress week 1 and 2 high cravings
week 3 and 4 low cravings
week 5 and 6 cravings increasing
week 6-7 Im starting to believe that I can actually leave this addiction
Take each day at a time till the day you can enjoy each second of that day