I'm just over 2 weeks into this. My girlfriend and I have been practising making love with only infrequent orgasms for years. I have found that this definitely generates and sustains love. However the 'Peace Between the Sheets' total non-orgasm system is much more extreme. After 16 days I have got a continuous pressure in my prostate. I am also experiencing a feeling of distance from my partner, who I have been deeply in love with since we got together, 5 years ago.
I understand Marnia's contribution re the science of things. However that doesn't mean much to me. There is a new branch of medicine which is empirically (results) based. That sounds obvious, but in fact medicine is often prescribed on the basis of what science expects to happen as a result of medical theory. Turns out this is a pretty fallible way of doing things and impartial observation of the effects of substances often gives surprising, and contradictory, results.
Therefore, though it is interesting, I don't put much stock in theories or their interpretation.
On the other hand I would love to hear from people who have been practising this for more than a few months (and preferably at least a year) - to hear your results based experience.
What is it like long term?
Can the male body can go without orgasms and without prostate discomfort? Because while it is clear the body can go without ejaculating sperm (as after a vasectomy) because this accumulates in the testicles in a thicker and thicker fashion (according to my surgeon), this is different to seminal fluid, which is still produced elsewhere. (Chinese medicine advises a lessening of orgasm frequency for the benefit of the kidneys, but also advises against supression of the orgasm, also for the benefit of the kidneys.)
How many people have made it beyond the first flush of interest and found non-orgasm is sustainable and long-term beneficial?
How long does the period of estrangement last between the partners (we have been practising the exchanges, which aren't much different from our normal cuddling behaviour anyway, but something has gone a bit flat).
If you have been doing this long enough to come out the other side and use it as a way of life, I would love to hear the details of your experience and what you had to go through (please mention how long you have been doing it). And do you find that you have the occassional orgasm, or is this completely unnecessary?
Or if you tried non-orgasm and didn't go on with it, I'd like to have the benefit of your experience, and the reasons why?
Thank you to everybody, and particularly Marnia, for providing a forum for this very important subject.