Freedom, I didn't want to take away from Mrs. Tornfromabook's "O" thread, so I moved your question to me over here~~you said:
"Do you benefit somehow from the time apart? I would guess it might allow post-processing, self-growth, and inner balance. How in touch are you during the week? Karezza seems to be as much about how to be apart as it is about how to be together. Perhaps there should be more books and research on connections at a distance."
As for your first question, time apart does allow for self-reflection, self-growth, etc.~~but on the other hand, it's hard to be away from the one you love. I think we both live with the knowledge that this won't be forever, but we just don't know how or when things will change~~and for me, a lifelong "planner" of things, it's been a challenge just to sit back and take life one day at a time and appreciate the now--but it's been a good lesson for me. So you are correct in saying that karezza is about how to be apart; it's a blessing to be happy with yourself and not feel needy nor have that sense of lack and honestly, I don't know if I could have handled this time apart had we been practicing conventional sex all these months. I know my "feeling of lack" would be over-the-top and I'm pretty sure I would have scared him away with all my emotional neediness. I feel so blessed to have come to this forum and consequently, I have learned how to be a much more lovable and loving woman.
We communicate frequently all throughout the day when we are apart; we usually have a morning phone call with follow-up phone calls throughout the day, along with funny texts, cellphone photos of something we are doing or seeing, etc. I must say he is very good at making me feel loved when we are apart. I don't have a webcam, so we haven't gone that route, but it will probably be in the future.
Long-distance relationships are made so much easier with the invention of texting, cellphones, etc.~~I am very grateful for this technology!