The lure of conventional sex
(wfk007) I've run into my first challenges with karezza. It has been awesome for my wife and me. My wife and I noticed how much we were in the moment. Our bodies felt every touch and every move. Things that wouldn't have excited us in the past have now become pretty intense. Add to that our new openness and we are very relaxed and never thinking about "performing".
The trap came when it just felt too good and old habits returned. You know where this is going to end up. There is a point of no return in the feelings and when they are so enjoyable and the connection is so intense, an orgasm is right around the corner.
After this happened a couple of weeks ago, I talked to my wife and we put a stop to it. She was really enjoying intercourse and exciting me. It made her glow. After the second time, we backed way off on karezza and went back to the beginning to take things slower.
I'll admit to really being challenged by this. I sure wasn't excited to go through the 14 day cycle, nor did I want to wake up the chaser effect (and I noticed I suddenly became more interested in certain pictures, or my eyes roamed more in public). But I also loved the connection we made and the intensity my body felt. I literally felt 20 years younger and like I was falling in love all over again. Really hard to describe the place we made it to.
So I have a new challenge now with karezza. It has heightened my senses and brought us very close together. We now need to work on the boundaries.
As someone who recovered from porn months ago, it was amazing my body could act the way it did. It was a magical experience. But I realize I recovered because of the changes I made.
Vaginal pain (post menopause)
(Donna) Just wanted to let you know about something that has made a profound difference for me in our Karezza lovemaking. Off and on, I would have pain in my vagina and couldn't figure out what it was. When having our love sessions, I couldn't let my husband in more than about an inch or so and sometimes I just had to end it because of the pain. It was more of a sore tight feeling, but without any burning sensations. I knew it wasn't a dryness problem because I produce a lot of natural lubrication.
For the past several months I've been into using calcium bentonite clay for healing skin problems, as facial clay masks, etc. It's working so well for me that I bought a 40 lb. bucket of it and have gotten friends and family into using it. Recently, I read about using the clay for vaginal problems such as cysts, and general toxicity in the vaginal tissues. I did what the instructions said. I hand-shaped suppositories about one inch long and 1/2 inch in thickness and let them dry, uncovered, until firm, but not completely hardened. It works best when it is still at least partially hydrated. It takes about 12 hours to dry them just right.
I begin inserting one of these every night.and leaving it in overnight. In the morning the clay suppository either just drops out on its own or I have to manually remove it. The next night I insert a fresh one. In about 3 days we made love again and the difference has been nothing short of a miracle! I have no more pain and we can go for deep penetration right away. My husband says my vagina feels incredibly soft and loose and the movement of the energy circuit between us starts up immediately, instead of having to wait for 30 minutes or more, as it had been when I was experiencing the pain.
Something interesting about the clay...it is composed of volcanic ash and has a negative charge to it when the dry powder is hydrated and applied to the skin. This negative charge draws in toxins, bacteria, pathogens and anything else with a positive charge. The toxins are absorbed into the clay and remain there without affecting surrounding tissues until the clay is removed and washed off or discarded. I think the improved results we are experiencing in our lovemaking has a lot to do with the fact that this clay has a magnetic charge to it.
We are so pleased to have found something that has worked so well and thought you might want to pass this tip on to other women who are experiencing painful intercourse.
Pain from penis bumping cervix
(Tantralove) I enjoy most to lie still, deeply penetrated in a completely relaxed vagina and feel the cervix against the head of my penis. I think it's important to avoid bumping and just feel the contact between penis head and cervix. It's very sensitive and gives a lot of exchange of energy. My wife has not felt any pain then.