well, i tried to introduce the girl i am dating to some of these non-orgasm techiniques but i dont think she quite gets it or is into it. i tried to have a different kind of lovemaking technique with her just now, where i was focused on pleasing her and going slow, just lots of touching, but she pulled me into making traditional love in the end. i was hoping tpo go longer than 1 week without orgasm, but it happened. so...I still havent looked at porn in 2 weeks and and at least my intention was more on touching and energy so its a start i guess. now i will try to stay aware of my mind/mood changes since this happened and observe. thats all i can do now...not going to beat myself up for giving in to having orgasm. just keep to be aware..