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I've been decreasing my amount of porn and masturbation heavily since I found this website about one year ago. Before that I masturbated to porn almost every day, sometimes several times a day. I've also had a lot of casual sex in my days. I'm 27 years old.

I've experienced alot of benefits by cutting down PMO heavily. I'm way more clearheaded, less headaches, alot more easy to keep focus when sozialising and enjoyt it too. My face look way much better compared to how it looks the week after a masturbation marathon in front of porn (which could happend when hangover etc). So the benefits are great and life becomes so much better when not suffering from orgasm-hangover and a dopaminespeeded brain which makes me impulsive and immature.

I stayed at the the point where I masturbated to porn about ever second week, and I usually binged and spent the whole day doing it. For a long time. Even if thats not good its way better to do it like that once every two-three weeks than before. So I developed but I couldn't get in total balance and live up to my goal which was once, without porn every third-forth week. It was very hard getting there and I never did actually. I've stopped the binging now though. When I masturbate these days I do it ONCE and not more often than once a week or second week. So there is an overall progress. Now I just need to remove the porn and try to hold a little longer.

The problem is that I'm so used of emptying myself total when I do it so I don't feel that one single masturbation is enough to relieve my sexual tension and frustration. I think about sex ALL THE TIME (except from when I spend time with my family) and its really frustrating. I look very good (get alot of looks, comments and flirts from girls) and its making it so much harder. I get accounts on dating-sex-sites and spend hours and hours of mailing (trying to hook up girls) and then chating with them on MSN where we talk about all the dirty things we wanna do with each other. Maybe play in the webcam too.

This behaviour of mine is so frustrating and it makes me feel very unhappy. I can't focus on school (which is very important that I do) because when I study at home there is always the temptation on going online and try to catch girls on the dating-sites and when I'm at the university I just go around and flirt with and look at all the beautiful girls. And since they look back at me I obviously fantazise alot about what I wanna do with them, and then I can't focus on the studying.

I can't even just lie home and watch TV without feeling temptated on going online and search for sex on datingsites. Its the temptation all the time that is there and if I for example would sell my computer, turn of internet or block these sites I would feel so empty and unhappy.

I'm just in a part of my life where I wanna have a serious relationship but I'm too shattered and sexobsessed to be serious. Or maybe I havn't just met the right one. Even so I wanna learn how to be relaxed and feel good and happy when I'm alone at my home and not lie and feel horny, sexually frustrated and unhappy while watching TV without concentrating nor feeling happy and high while spending hours at the sex-dating sites. I wanna be able to sit and study for hours withouth thinking about sex and getting unfocused ALL THE TIME.

This isn't easy. I'm not happy in my life even though I have all the possibilites in the world to be happy. Maybe someone who reads this can give me some input. Just felt for venting.

I'm not too good at giving advice but,

I'm 21, and I can relate to you when you say one single masturbation session is not enough to ease your sexual tension. I use to watch porn all day too, and it took over my mind so much that I found myself making way too many gross sexual jokes while socializing. Sadly, the only real advice I can give you is to keep abstaining from all orgasm so that your brain can learn to appreciate other things. It may take some time, but it's all cumulative so you have nothing to lose in trying. One thing I always found when masturbating to porn was that it revealed more and more what I really wanted. It always shined a light on the fact that what I really wanted was companionship.

Thanks

[quote=CaptainFalcon]I'm 21, and I can relate to you when you say one single masturbation session is not enough to ease your sexual tension. I use to watch porn all day too, and it took over my mind so much that I found myself making way too many gross sexual jokes while socializing. Sadly, the only real advice I can give you is to keep abstaining from all orgasm so that your brain can learn to appreciate other things. It may take some time, but it's all cumulative so you have nothing to lose in trying. One thing I always found when masturbating to porn was that it revealed more and more what I really wanted. It always shined a light on the fact that what I really wanted was companionship.[/quote]

Your oppionions are noted. Thanks for the advice. I can relate to what you sat about wanting companionship too. Good luck man.

Hi Robhood

First, congratulations on your progress.

Second, what about trying to masturbate without porn? You might find that the need to "exhaust yourself" isn't as strong. I know that sounds illogical, but just try it. Probably without porn you wouldn't masturbate as much. By cutting out the binge, you might notice that a lot of other things improve.

Third, ever read anything about Daoist lovemaking? Those guys made a science of sex, observing every nuance of sexual behavior for centuries. They strongly recommended *not* exhausting your libido. Ever. And they report that horniness (eventually) decreased if you can manage to do that for a while. If you don't know what to do with your horniness, try some of these ancient circulation exercises. http://yourbrainonporn.com/tools-solo-energy-practices Sex has been around a long time, and humans have learned a lot about it through the years. Why reinvent the wheel? Wink

Fourth, start a blog if you like.

Thanks Marnia

[quote=Marnia]First, congratulations on your progress.

Second, what about trying to masturbate without porn? You might find that the need to "exhaust yourself" isn't as strong. I know that sounds illogical, but just try it. Probably without porn you wouldn't masturbate as much. By cutting out the binge, you might notice that a lot of other things improve.

Third, ever read anything about Daoist lovemaking? Those guys made a science of sex, observing every nuance of sexual behavior for centuries. They strongly recommended *not* exhausting your libido. Ever. And they report that horniness (eventually) decreased if you can manage to do that for a while. If you don't know what to do with your horniness, try some of these ancient circulation exercises. http://yourbrainonporn.com/tools-solo-energy-practices Sex has been around a long time, and humans have learned a lot about it through the years. Why reinvent the wheel? Wink

Fourth, start a blog if you like.[/quote]

Thank you. It has been a progress for sure. And when I think back on how hard it was back then, it gives me hope that it will become even better with time.

I will go on masturbating without porn from now on. Even if its hard sometimes and I felt terrible last night I don't give in as easily now as for maybe six months ago. Its like I've become stronger and masturbating to porn now isn't just one moment away as it was when I felt this horny before. These days I can even sit in front of the computer feeling horny and idle without looking at porn even if the thought crosses my mind. That was not how it was earlier. I think if you just push things further and tries harder it gets better with time even if you slip. The brain get reprogrammed and your behaviour gets different. Now masturbation and porn isn't close of happening as soon as I'm horny in front of a computer anymore. Even if its frustrating to go around feeling horny sometimes.

I definiately buy what you say about that it gets easier with time if you stick to one single masturbation without porn ever now and than. Thats with I strive for and it feels like I'm almost there.

School today felt good. Didn't feel as sexually frustrated as I use too.

Sometimes

progress just takes longer than we want it to.

Remember the "cold water on the genitals" technique when you're trying to change direction under pressure.