So heres a brief history of my road to recovery. I have had ED problems during sex since my first experience at 18, I have been masturbating 1-2 times a day since 13, with porn. I started this process after finding this post and YBOP.com on July 4th, 2011. The first month I was O free, but I did edge with porn fantasy several times within the first month. After that first month I relapsed, and began to find myself relapsing almost once every 10 days or so, usually with porn, often with 2-4 O each relapse. Despite these set backs I noticed great changes in how often I was getting erections, and an overall increase in sensitivity.
So last night I decided to test my progress with a woman. I invited over a girl on facebook that I knew had been wanted to hook up with me for a while. We started making out and I got very hard, very fast. After some mutual oral sex, I put the condom on and stayed very hard, which is a first for me! However, after about 25 minutes of penetration in several positions, we were both exhuasted and I still had not finished. I was not even able to finish with my hand, I just felt very little sensitivity down there, her vagina though the condom, just wasnt providing the pleasure that I expected it would.
Although this was a big improvement over my past attempts at sex, which I would usually go soft during foreplay or shortly after penetration, I am still feeling very discouraged. I was so hoping that it would be awesome sex and I would finally be cured of this. My last orgasm was 6 days ago, from masturbation.
I'm thinking what I need is a true 60-90 days of abstianance, NO edging, as little fantasy as possible, and of course no O or porn. Unfortunatley I've got several female prospects, a couple of whom I could definetly see becoming exclusive relationships. But all of that will have to go on the back burner I suppose. Despite marked improvements, I'm still worried that I will never fully be cured of this, and never be able to truely share great sex and enjoy it with someone.
I did a little research and found some articles on delayed/retarded ejaculation. Alot of them said to seek therapy, I don't know if that would be helpful, or if the desensitization is solely from all the masturbation.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, any advice or insight would be great.