When you make the two into one, and when you make the inner like the outer and the outer like the inner, and the upper like the lower, and when you make male and female into a single one...then you will enter [the kingdom of heaven].
Jesus, according to The Gospel of Thomas
When we speak about bonding and attachment, our minds usually go to the early years of childhood. Research documents the effects of touch, holding, breastfeeding and co-sleeping on children’s developing brains and their ability to form healthy relationships with themselves and others. We have learned that such attachment practices raise levels of vasopressin and oxytocin, two hormones essential for forming social bonds and emotional intimacy. The cocktail literally hard-wires the brain for love.
But what about us - the adults in this scenario? Most of us were raised in the way that was fashionable at the time - birthed in hospital, separated from our mothers and put in a room full of other crying babies, bottle-fed on a schedule and made to sleep alone. This was our first taste of life on earth, and imprinted upon our brains is the resulting predispositions that now often haunts us in our intimate relationships. Can we heal that primary impression that projects itself through the space and time of our life?...