Testimonials - Summaries

I hope your work leads others to this wonderful experience

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Mayan marriageI think that what makes your views so very interesting is that you bring a very deep understanding of modern evolutionary biology into your depiction of the effects of ejaculation on sexual feelings. It is quite true that one undergoes a PROFOUND change in perception after orgasm and I am certain this has evolved in order to motivate the male to seek out additional female sex partners, because this was always in their genetic interests.

Nonetheless, I can say that nothing can compare with prolonged lovemaking without ejaculation; the feelings that can swell up are beyond the ability to describe in words.

Peace Between the Eats

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junk foodThis item was shared by a young man.

I have some extremely good news to share with you to the point where I feel like I'm almost overflowing with gratitude. You see, after a life long struggle with dieting and food addiction, I've recently given up refined sugar along with other troublesome foods like pizza and soda and potato chips (all the junk stuff that you previously would have had to pry out of my cold dead hands).

Testimonial - Diabetes Patient

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appleTwo months later, time to check back with you. My wife and I read the book, have done the Exchanges and are well on our way. You may recall that I asked you about what effect, if any, diabetics might have noted in their blood sugar readings.

Here's my observation so far (I'm type II, exercise, diet management and medication only.):

For the last several years my morning glucose readings would be higher than most physicians would like to see....150's, 160's. My A1c tests have always been good 7.0 or less. My last orgasm was July 4. During July my glucose morning readings were still in the high 140's and 150's. For the last 3 weeks (since entering the second phase of the exchanges) I have been seeing readings in the 110 to 130 range, which is right where they should be for long term good health. I am keeping a diary on this so we'll see where it goes from here. Suffice it to say I am pleased with these results for myself, and it is wonderful to experience the subtle changes in my wife's and my relationship.

"How Long Does This Take, Anyway?"

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lovers kissing near a clockRecently a reader, who had been trying the Peace system for about six weeks, wrote to say that despite his continence during sex, he wasn't feeling ecstasy with his partner, and was feeling some resentment. He was seeking advice.

As my husband was out of town, and I had little to offer from a man's perspective, I decided to canvass other men's experience via the Peace chatroom (precursor to the Forum). My question was, "How long after you began making love without ejaculation did you experience a ‘non-ejaculatory orgasm’?" Here's what they had to say:

Historical descriptions

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Amor and PsycheThese are excerpts from texts in which people describe the practice of controlled intercourse.

Hua Hu Ching

Lao Tzu (approximately 2300 years ago)

Where ordinary intercourse is effortful, angelic cultivation is calm, relaxed, quiet, and natural. Where ordinary intercourse unites sex organs with sex organs, angelic cultivation unites spirit with spirit, mind with mind, and every cell of one body with every cell of the other body. Culminating not in dissolution but in integration, it is an opportunity for a man and woman to mutually transform and uplift each other into the realm of bliss and wholeness.

She is more attractive than she has been in years

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This couple tried the"Ecstatic Exchanges," the nightly recipe set out in Peace Between the Sheets. They voluntarily sent in their experiences as they went through the experience, beginning in July, 2003.

Introduction

M&L
Hi--
My wife, L., and I have started the healing phase. I first read a review of your book in planetlightworker.com and then ordered two copies, but did not pick them up to read for half a year, when I experienced a life twisting incident. After another week of soul searching I picked up the book and introduced L. to the concepts, many of which she was already aware of. I will send my impressions on a day-to-day basis so that you can get a look at one couple's progress. Keep in mind that we are happily married to start with.

I don't know that we have been this close in ten years.

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Experience with the Ecstatic Exchanges

couple kissingMy wife and myself started working the exercises about 6 days ago and actually are on exchange 6 today. My wife was skeptical after reading the book but we agreed that it was time to try something different in the relationship. After 5 years of dating and 5 years of marriage and ten years of ups and downs, the roller coaster drama was insane. We both had been married before and brought enough scars and baggage to kill an ordinary relationship, not to mention blending a family with three teenagers, and the fact that ours survived at all is a testimony to the power of the human spirit. We have had other kinds of training and were well versed in other forms of the Exchanges but somehow things have been magical so far. Just doing touch without an expectation of either reward or rejection has made an enormous difference for both of our comfort levels and I would recommend anyone wanting to do intimacy work. We have experimented with non-ejaculatory sex before, although not in a dedicated sense but I think I do have some questions on whether non orgasmic sex is necessary-although just the mind set that the goal is touch and peaceful comfort, not sperm, is essential I suspect.

Testimonials

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courting loversWondering what it would be like to experiment with avoiding orgasm? Well this page will satisfy your curiosity. There are accounts from the recent, and more distant, past. You can find more feedback here.

Please share your experience, too.

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