When you make the two into one, and when you make the inner like the outer and the outer like the inner, and the upper like the lower, and when you make male and female into a single one...then you will enter [the kingdom of heaven].
Jesus, according to The Gospel of Thomas
In the News
Transcript: Robyn Williams: And so we turn to sex, it was dealt with compellingly in All in the Mind this week, the aspect of desire and we shall now worry about the orgasm. And yes, I do mean worry because there’s a school of thought that too much of the big hit might sometimes be the source of addiction. It’s a small school of thought perhaps but one worth thinking about. Mary Sharpe is in the Department of Divinity at the University of Cambridge where she keeps an eagle eye on the science of sex.
Mary Sharpe: Well in the past few years there’ve been some very interesting developments in the field of science that helps us understand the difference between love and lust.
Article by Mary Sharpe from London's "City Security" magazine, December, 2005
With the current series of suicide bombings, many theories have been advanced about the root causes: grievance at the West and its foreign policies in Muslim countries; anger towards the occupiers in Palestine; frustration at an inability to integrate fully into mainstream society in the West; the Jihadist desire to kill the infidel and prove one’s status as true believer in the righteousness of Allah and the Qu’ran (thereby earning the ultimate reward of 72 perpetual virgins in Paradise).
While any of these may play a part, they do not induce all aggrieved Muslims to react in such an extreme way. The vast majority of suicide bombers (and criminals) are young men aged between 15 and 25 years, at their sexual peak, raging with hormones and boundless energy, seeking an outlet and a mission in life.
Finding Peace Between Our Sheets
See interview of Marnia by Adam Elenbaas. This interview is to be included in the 2009 title Towards 2012: New Perspectives for New Times.
'In Conversation' with Robyn Williams of ABC
[From transcript of interview]
The Associated Press reported on August 4, 2005 that Christopher Offord, 30, was sentenced to death for killing his wife with a claw hammer. He was angry because she wanted him to come back to bed and cuddle after sex. He wanted to watch sports on TV.
Mary Balfour, author of Smart Dating: How to Find Your Man
Peace Between the Sheets: Healing with Sexual Relationships
As a matchmaker who runs several dating agencies I only wish I could make Peace Between the Sheets compulsory reading for all people who seek a new relationship. There might just be even more happy endings.
The book addresses the age-old problem of the romance junkie, the person (more often, but not always, a man - dare I say it) who, after satisfying an initial surge of lust and infatuation in a new relationship, suddenly pulls back and loses interest. It also looks at how this addictive see-saw effect can play a damaging role in ongoing relationships of many years standing as well, suggesting that after orgasmic sex both men and women go through what can be a destructive period of emotional withdrawal.
Magical Blend Magazine
I have to admit that when I first encountered the basic premise of this book - that sex without orgasm for either partner was better than with - it sounded too extreme to take seriously. But after reading the very solid biochemistry her theories are based on, as well as the testimonials to the success of the practices it suggests, I started thinking that the author just may be on to something. The book argues that we're hard-wired to become depleted and depressed after orgasmic sex and therefore to eventually lose interest. But trade the climax for an ongoing physical intimacy (she includes a program at the end of the book to get you started), and love blooms eternal. Written with great good humor and engaging storytelling, this book is well worth a read - and its practices, perhaps, worth a try! - Pearly Baker Best
Monte Paulsen, editor of the DRAGONFLY REVIEW OF BOOKS, February, 2004
The other bold title in this year's Valentine's Day Avalanche is Peace Between the Sheets: Healing with Sexual Relationships (Frog). Lawyer-turned-relationship-counselor Marnia Robinson argues that many of us are literally addicted to orgasm, stumbling through life from one dopamine hangover to the next.
The first half of Robinson's book makes the case that orgasm unleashes the same sort of chemical assault on the brain as alcohol, nicotine, cocaine or other drugs. She asserts that many couples' relationships eerily resemble the addict-dealer relationship pattern: newfound delight, devolving into angry resentment. "We remain at biology's mergy," she writes, "until we begin to make the connection between the great sex we had last week and the disharmony we are experiencing this week."
Studying Harmony of Intimate Relationships