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Karezza: Men Say Best Sex Comes Without Orgasm

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ABC News did a feature on karezza, and the reporter interviewed a number of forum members.

Matt Cook hasn't had an orgasm in seven months, and he hopes never to intentionally have one again. The 51-year-old publisher from Virginia isn't celibate. Happily married for 25 years, Cook said his sex life is more exciting than ever and giving up the goal-oriented climax has improved every aspect of his life.

Cook, the father of adult two sons, is a newcomer to karezza, a form of intercourse that emphasizes affection while staying far from the edge of orgasm. Climax is not the goal and ideally does not occur while making love.

Sleep With Your Partner to Live Longer, Says Research

This research is interesting for two reasons. First it affirms the beneficial effects of bonding behaviors. Second, women slept worse after sex. Hmmmm.... Link to abstract

In spite of all the bed sheet fights, constant snoring and other irritating bedroom habits of your partner, sleeping together may get you a longer life compared to those who sleep alone, says a latest study. Couples who sleep together are reportedly healthier even if it makes them get up a few times in the night or experience a little uncomfortable sleep, believe researchers.

Discovering the Secrets of Long-Term Love

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Physical affection is so powerful that, even if a relationship doesn't always seem perfect (and what relationship always does?), it may help make up for the negatives. Certain couples, for example, reported low marital satisfaction due, presumably, to some of the common challenges couples face (e.g. differences in parenting styles, financial stress, divisions of responsibility). However, if their levels of physical affection remained high, the couple still reported intense love.

A survey reveals many American couples are still "intensely in love" even after a decade together--and hints at the reasons why

Oxytocin Levels Predict Longevity of Love Affairs

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This new research is consistent with the concept that bonding behaviors strengthen human pair bonds.

New research links levels of the “cuddle hormone” with falling, and staying, in love.

There’s nothing like the bliss of a new romance. And yet, many experiencing such rapture find it disrupted by a nagging question: How do we know our love will last? Newly published research suggests a possible answer: Get your oxytocin levels checked. A team of researchers led by Inna Schneiderman of the Gonda Brain Sciences Center of Israel’s Bar-Ilan University have just published a study examining the role oxytocin, commonly called the “cuddle hormone,” plays in the early stages of romantic relationships. While differentiating cause and effect is tricky, the researchers find a strong link between lasting relationships and high levels of the hormone.

German book by Reuniting forum member

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Orgasmus IHere is a new book in German about the biology of orgasm:

Orgasmus I - Die Biologie der Trennung
Warum wir uns entlieben und wie man verliebt bleibt
by Carmen Reiss

(Orgasm I - The Biology of Separation. Why we fall out of love and how to stay in love)

The author:

When I first connected with the ideas about Karezza and the biology of orgasm on the Reuniting website in 2008 it was a big eye-opener. I understood immediately the impact that this "hidden factor" had had on my love history - and therefore on the course of my life.

I've been doing what I can to spread the message. Unfortunately, people with either a religious or atheist background can be deterred by Cupid's Poisoned Arrow itself, due to the esoteric aspects of the book.

Is a cuddle better than sex?

Don't panic if the passion is gone. New research says it's hugs not hanky-panky that keeps couples together

footsies25 July, 2011 Recently, I met a few close female friends for dinner. As is the way on these occasions, the talk swiftly turned to relationships. Tellingly, the topic of marital sex — or more accurately, the lack of it — was a big issue among this group of fortysomething women, many of whom have either young children, husbands with demanding jobs or high levels of financial stress. ‘We hardly ever have sex these days,’ admitted my friend and lecturer Jo, 37.

Some Like It Warm

Cover of 'Psychologies' magazine

Here's an attempt to explain the karezza-type approach to sex and bonding behaviors in a mainstream magazine in the United Kingdom.

by Mary Sharpe "SEX: Why It's Not All About Orgasms" "...She and her current partner have nicknamed the practice 'riding the wave.' "The idea is that instead of having foreplay to create a need to release, or orgasm, we have a slower, more connecting way of being intimate." Read more

Party people - Gregarious types may have more oxytocin receptors

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New research suggests the 'love hormone' oxytocin may determine how sociable we are

Oxytocin junkies: The hormone that helps us bond with partners may also make social occasions enjoyable.

Can a single chemical be responsible for all the intimate connections we feel with other people? Oxytocin isn't called the "love hormone" for nothing. It has plenty of other functions, of course, among them triggering milk secretion during breastfeeding, and helping the cervix to dilate during labour. But it's oxytocin's role in bonding that is most intriguing.

The recipe for great sex: orgasm optional, research finds

playful couplePut away your vacuum pump, heavy-duty auto booster cables and edible latex Brad Pitt face mask-and-abs combo. According to a study released Thursday, such items are simply litter along the road to great sex. The study, titled The Components of Optimal Sexuality: A Portrait of 'Great Sex', suggests that sexual fulfilment has far less to do with technique and perfect bodies -- elements most often ascribed great significance by popular culture -- and more to do with such factors as presence, connection and erotic intimacy.